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Pregnancy loss and body image
I have heard that one way to gain a healthy body image is to reframe your attitude towards your body to focus on how well it works, how strong it is, how lucky I am to be able-bodied etc. But that was a huge struggle when my baby died inside this body. I didn’t have faith in it to do its job anymore. -
Understanding your Grief
In the beginning most of our time is spent in the loss-oriented zone, only leaving for essential activities when triggered by stressors. As time goes on, the desired outcome is that the ratio of time spent in each zone moves along a scale in favour of the restorative zone.
This blog is an excerpt from The Pregnancy Loss Journal available from Vilomah.ie in November 2021.
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Significant days - Back to school
The return to school can be a significant day overlooked by many and not noticed how difficult it can be for a bereaved parent. Finding a way to face these significant dates or creating a way to acknowledge it that you feel comfortable with can help. -
Loss changes you, Grief take time
We are ever evolving as people, every new experience changes us. It's the same when you experience a loss, no matter the loss it changes you. Lett... -
No matter how small
No matter when, or how your loss happens, whether it be at 4 weeks or 4 months, whether it was a total shock or a heart breaking decision, that heartache and pain is real and justified. -
The reality of grief and emotions
All these ups and downs are completely natural and a normal reaction and one you have very little control over. Fighting, avoiding, or denying your emotions prevents processing them, delays your healing and depletes your mental resources. Not only is it necessary to allow yourself to experience these really tough days,it is often actually easier to ride the wave of grief than fight against it.
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New business name and changes to come!!
When we went looking at possible names the one word that we kept coming back to was Vilomah. For us there was no other name that we could use to describe us and the work we hope to do. -
Fathers and Pregnancy Loss
“She was my baby too…”
Dads emotional needs are no different to mums, they need acknowledgement of their grief, and affirmation that they have a right to grieve. They need to be allowed to express their emotions, be it sadness, guilt, anger in a supportive environment. And they need time.
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Speaking about your baby that died
When you experience pregnancy loss or a loss of your baby shortly after birth it can be very upsetting to feel that you can’t speak openly about y...