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WHY not to say…
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You might have heard what not to say but we’d like to explain a little more about why not to say some things that are often used as words of sympathy.,,
Remember you don’t have to have the right words. The responsibility to “solve the problem” or “cure” your friend or loved one doesn’t rest with you. Your role is not to heal them, but to support them while they heal.
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Understanding your Grief
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In the beginning most of our time is spent in the loss-oriented zone, only leaving for essential activities when triggered by stressors. As time goes on, the desired outcome is that the ratio of time spent in each zone moves along a scale in favour of the restorative zone.
This blog is an excerpt from The Pregnancy Loss Journal available from Vilomah.ie in November 2021.
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Significant days - Back to school
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The return to school can be a significant day overlooked by many and not noticed how difficult it can be for a bereaved parent. Finding a way to face these significant dates or creating a way to acknowledge it that you feel comfortable with can help. -
Loss changes you, Grief take time
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We are ever evolving as people, every new experience changes us. It's the same when you experience a loss, no matter the loss it changes you. Lett... -
No matter how small
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No matter when, or how your loss happens, whether it be at 4 weeks or 4 months, whether it was a total shock or a heart breaking decision, that heartache and pain is real and justified. -
The reality of grief and emotions
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All these ups and downs are completely natural and a normal reaction and one you have very little control over. Fighting, avoiding, or denying your emotions prevents processing them, delays your healing and depletes your mental resources. Not only is it necessary to allow yourself to experience these really tough days,it is often actually easier to ride the wave of grief than fight against it.
