In the beginning most of our time is spent in the loss-oriented zone, only leaving for essential activities when triggered by stressors. As time goes on, the desired outcome is that the ratio of time spent in each zone moves along a scale in favour of the restorative zone.
This blog is an excerpt from The Pregnancy Loss Journal available from Vilomah.ie in November 2021.
The return to school can be a significant day overlooked by many and not noticed how difficult it can be for a bereaved parent. Finding a way to face these significant dates or creating a way to acknowledge it that you feel comfortable with can help.
All these ups and downs are completely natural and a normal reaction and one you have very little control over. Fighting, avoiding, or denying your emotions prevents processing them, delays your healing and depletes your mental resources. Not only is it necessary to allow yourself to experience these really tough days,it is often actually easier to ride the wave of grief than fight against it.